Controlled crying seems to be the flavour of the month atm and its slowly driving me insane....
I shared the following with some friends (quite a few of them seem to be CCing...) to explain the main reason why I don't CC (other than the studies that show it causes the baby both psychological and brain damage...)
I don't know about anyone else, but my growing up experience has had a huge impact on the way I parent my kids. Especially since I know that I was the 'difficult' baby, a 'sook', 'needy' etc, ykwim....I was the clingy crying 'pita' baby. (From what my mum has told me Indy is very much like me)
My parents were smackers, and I can still remember quite clearly being hit with a belt by my dad, as well as my parents having very little interest in me as a child. Some of you may remember I am still having issues with my parents now, as an adult, because I finally did what I wanted and not what they wanted, and I now have very little to do with my mum....its all very superficial with her now. In fact I only just told her today about the LLETZ procedure that I had 2 weeks ago....I had mentioned the abnormal pap smear when it first happened and she never asked again, so I left it....and she only remembered today...
Anyway...
I think, for me, what haunts me the most about my upbringing is something that I don't remember, something I have only been told about, not in full detail, but what I know is enough to have a lasting effect on me.
When I was a baby, still in a bassinette, my parents locked me in the bathroom so that they could sleep. Well...my mum says that my dad did it, but obviously she didn't stop him hey...
That bathroom was the coldest room in the house....and they locked a little defenseless baby in a bassinette in the bathroom, the coldest room of the house to cry itself to sleep, merely so they could sleep. Not for 5 mins timeout so they didn't kill me.....but so they could sleep.
I don't know how long I was left in there for, quite frankly I don't think I want to know because it is potentially more damaging to me than what I already know.
It doesn't make me feel very good to say the least, to think that my parents locked me in a bathroom crying so that they could sleep....when I think about it, I feel sad and disappointed that they did that to me and I could never put my boys in a position where I wouldn't want to be myself.
I'm not in anyway saying that CCing is equal to locking your kids in a bathroom so you can sleep and I sure as hell hope you don't take it that way, I just wanted to share a little about me and explain why it is that I am not comfortable with my kids being left to cry, cc or otherwise :)
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